About Dr. Robert
Huizenga

I often describe my professional and personal life as unfolding in two distinct phases.


In the first phase, I worked as a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in private practice, logging more than 25,000 hours helping individuals and couples facing relational crisis. I learned a great deal and became skilled at helping people navigate difficult situations.



Yet something troubled me.


Many people experienced insight and temporary relief, but the deeper patterns of fear, pain, and emotional reaction often returned.

Then, in midlife, my own marriage was shaken by an affair.

Like many people facing relational trauma, I searched intensely for understanding and healing. For six months I spent weekends in my office reading, studying, reflecting, and writing.

Out of that period came an ebook, Break Free From the Affair, one of the first books published online about infidelity. It quickly reached readers around the world and opened the door for a new chapter in my work.

I eventually closed my private practice and began working online, developing courses, writing about relationships, and coaching individuals struggling with infidelity and marital crisis.

But over time I realized something deeper was still missing.

Many people could understand what had happened in their relationship. Yet the emotional charge — the pain, fear, and recurring reactions — often remained.

The real question became:


How does genuine healing occur?

How do people move beyond familiar patterns of hurt and fear?

How do they rediscover the capacity to trust, love, and live freely again?

Over many years of observation, experimentation, and working with others, a structured process gradually emerged.

I now refer to that process as The 10-10-10 Method™.

The method focuses first on something many people overlook during crisis: relief.

Even brief moments of emotional relief can interrupt familiar patterns and create space for clarity.

From those moments of relief, deeper transformation becomes possible.

Thousands of people have explored this work through my writings, lessons, courses, and coaching.

And the exploration continues.

Because healing and transformation are not events.

They unfold ten seconds at a time.



Warmly,